Speaking of Gifts
Posted: Fri Apr 07, 2017 4:24 pm
Maybe I'm getting old or like Carrie Bradshaw regarding gifts and my being single w/o children. LOL
Here's my grip/complaints -
I have a friend that when she moved to her new home - I bought her very expensive bowls/platters as a house warming gift. She has 3 sons that I have been invited to their graduations, 1 wedding shower, wedding, 1 baby shower, her and her husbands 60th birthday party and probably a few other occasions thrown in over the years. The cost to me is usually $75 to $100 - more for weddings. Also, have sent flowers for her family members funerals, which is always a $100.
When I separated and bought my own home - she never acknowledge my move with a card or a gift. She has never acknowledged any of my birthdays. Basically, in the 18 years I've known her, I have not received any type of gift from her. Financially, she and her husband are well set, so it's not a money issue.
Her middle son's girl friend is pregnant, I'm sure I will be invited to the baby shower and wedding (if there is one).
I'm tired of the gift giving when it is not reciprocated in any way!
I have a few other friends that are pretty much the same, because they have kids, I get invited to all their functions. These friends I rarely see anymore due to my working, and now having two horses that fill all of my non-working hours. I rarely see them and yes, that's my fault for not being available, but I guess I'm just tired of all the one sided gift giving to people I rarely see anymore. The last one was a friends 50th birthday party, spent $50 and also took food to that party. I never even got a Thank You note....and I haven't spoken or seen her since then, which was December.
I was invited to her wedding which was a destination wedding, I didn't go since I could not find anyone to share a room with and I didn't feel safe staying alone. I did give her a $100 gift card, I did get a Thank You note for that. But, her other friends were mad that I didn't go, so I've been shunned a bit. They felt I should have gone since we are all friends, even if I had to pay double occupancy and stay in a foreign city alone.
I guess my best choice is to just not go to the function and just send a card. I'd feel so cheap doing that, but all this gift giving is getting old. I know it's not their fault I don't have kids, but I do still have birthdays, LOL...
Sorry for the rant!
Here's my grip/complaints -
I have a friend that when she moved to her new home - I bought her very expensive bowls/platters as a house warming gift. She has 3 sons that I have been invited to their graduations, 1 wedding shower, wedding, 1 baby shower, her and her husbands 60th birthday party and probably a few other occasions thrown in over the years. The cost to me is usually $75 to $100 - more for weddings. Also, have sent flowers for her family members funerals, which is always a $100.
When I separated and bought my own home - she never acknowledge my move with a card or a gift. She has never acknowledged any of my birthdays. Basically, in the 18 years I've known her, I have not received any type of gift from her. Financially, she and her husband are well set, so it's not a money issue.
Her middle son's girl friend is pregnant, I'm sure I will be invited to the baby shower and wedding (if there is one).
I'm tired of the gift giving when it is not reciprocated in any way!
I have a few other friends that are pretty much the same, because they have kids, I get invited to all their functions. These friends I rarely see anymore due to my working, and now having two horses that fill all of my non-working hours. I rarely see them and yes, that's my fault for not being available, but I guess I'm just tired of all the one sided gift giving to people I rarely see anymore. The last one was a friends 50th birthday party, spent $50 and also took food to that party. I never even got a Thank You note....and I haven't spoken or seen her since then, which was December.
I was invited to her wedding which was a destination wedding, I didn't go since I could not find anyone to share a room with and I didn't feel safe staying alone. I did give her a $100 gift card, I did get a Thank You note for that. But, her other friends were mad that I didn't go, so I've been shunned a bit. They felt I should have gone since we are all friends, even if I had to pay double occupancy and stay in a foreign city alone.
I guess my best choice is to just not go to the function and just send a card. I'd feel so cheap doing that, but all this gift giving is getting old. I know it's not their fault I don't have kids, but I do still have birthdays, LOL...
Sorry for the rant!